In my observation, there is a difference between being alone and feeling lonely.
Since we know that we are encompassed by a great cloud of witnesses and God promises never to leave nor forsake us, we know that we are NOT alone despite how we feel. We have that knowledge and we believe that wholeheartedly.
Nevertheless, as human beings, at times we feel lonely. I have observed that this feeling comes at men differently than women but both are deeply affected by this feeling and God says … It is NOT GOOD for man to be alone.
Life is a journey and along the way I have observed that loneliness occurs when people feel that even though others are going in the same general direction, our individual struggles, goals, battles, ideas, feelings, emotions, and experiences are not being validated on an ongoing basis.
While we have moments of connection with others, it isn’t long before we are back to feeling loneliness again as that connection fades when each retreats to their daily circles of intimate contact.
We all need a witness, validation of our existence, to arrest this feeling of loneliness and we need that to be a human being. A husband and wife have this ongoing affect on one another but some people are not in a marriage relationship so, how do they have that sense of being validated and connected so that they don’t feel like their existence has no impact?
The answer is fellowship. While Apostle Paul did not have a wife, he maintained relationships with people who knew his personal struggles and validated his personal life.
Though I’m certain that at times he battled feelings of loneliness and despair, I am equally sure that his connection to disciples, other ministers and ministries added a sense of unity and fellowship that otherwise would not have been there.
Jesus, the ultimate example, maintained near constant fellowship with the disciples and of course, continuous contact with our Father in Heaven.
Nevertheless, we are made to connect to one another. So how does one solve the issue of loneliness in your life?
That is a challenge for many people. It is increasingly a challenge for those in our modern society as technology and the level of interaction causes people to seem even more disconnected and detached than at any other time in Earth’s long history.
Nevertheless, we need only heed the wisdom of the KING in solving this critical matter and finding validation, companionship, love, and true friendship the world over. You see, the fact that this problem exists is your very hope.
The fact that you know it so well uniquely qualifies you to walk in the remedy.
I will give you the answer for if you have read this far, it is because you desire wisdom and would indeed appreciate the answer you are about to receive. If you would truly end this drought of loneliness, let your life go. Any man who seeks to save his own life will only lose it. Jesus taught us that.Wisdom himself.
Instead, lay your life down for another and you will find your life again. So rather than seeking to end your loneliness … go about to end the loneliness of another and you’ll find an astounding side benefit of your self-sacrifice.
Your loneliness will also end for you will reap what you have sown. If you would have a true friend who validates, loves, honors, encourages, and strengthens you when you need it … be that friend to another.
If you would be blessed, be a blessing. Then you will find no shortage of those who will “see you” … because you see them.